How do you know when it’s time to quit camming?

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We’ve all had our bad days on cam (and weeks, and even months), but how do you know when to throw in the towel? When things are not going well on cam money-wise, do you try harder or do you quit?

I think that you have two options when things are not going well and you become disheartened, frustrated, and upset.
 

Option 1: Change Something!

 
You either try CHANGE UP your approach to camming, sign up to another cam site, or subscription site, or do another major change such as those.

The fact is, if you’ve been doing the same thing and it hasn’t been working, it’s unlikely it will. (Unless you get lucky, and a high tipper notices you and showers you in tokens). You have to look at what you’ve been doing on cam and see if there are areas that are majorly lacking. A simple fix may be in order, such as updating your equipment (webcam, laptop, lights – more important to looking good on cam than you’d think!), as well as your cam room. If you’ve got all the right tools, but still can’t seem to make money on cam, it might be that the site you’re on is not suited best for your needs. If you’re shy and prefer to be a non-mode cammodel (a “tease” model), then a site like Chaturbate might not work for you, because there is an emphasis on pretty sexual private and public shows.

You might benefit from a site like Myfreecams OR a subscription site like OnlyFans where you’re not required to be overly sexual. In fact, many camgirls have moved to OnlyFans, AVN Stars, etc, because of the flexibility these sites offer, and the fact that you don’t need to come up with complicated show ideas and spend hours of your time on cam. It’s worth trying them out if you feel burnt out on cam and are not getting enough interaction from tippers. A lot of girls make on OF much more money than the ever did as camgirls!

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However, if you actually enjoy the live interaction of camming, it might be that you need to look into other cam sites. See my list of best ones here. Try to assess what may be going on with your approach to camming. Maybe you’re not being quite yourself and the viewers are picking up on that, or maybe you need to create a character or persona that you will be on cam, and that is what will make it fun for you.

Viewers can see when you’re genuinely enjoying yourself and when you’re not, and that you’re just going through the motions. If you’re unhappy, feeling negative, or frustrated, you might lash out at people and drive them away even more. Members tend to come to cam sites for entertainment and lightheartedness, a place to get away from their problems and the daily grind. If it seems like you cannot do it, and being on cam is a drag leaving you more and more dissatisfied and frustrated, maybe it’s time to look into Option 2.
 

Option 2: Quit Camming

 
So, you tried your hand at camming and you’ve tried OnlyFans or a similar fanclub platform, and things have not gone well. You are not alone. Most camgirls will quit within the first month of camming, so if you’ve stuck it out for more than a month – good job! You gave it a fair try, and it may be that adult industry is not for you, and that you prefer to interact person-to-person, or want to use one of your other skills and talents. Remember, even if you “make it” as a camgirl, the career in the adult industry is quite short-lived, so you’ll either need to save most of your earnings, or look for a way to branch out and leave for another opportunity. (See my post on it here).

There is no shame in quitting, and it’s better to quit than to continue sticking it out and hurting yourself in the process. You might start feeling isolated and depressed and use drugs/alcohol to deal with the painful experiences on cam. Don’t exploit yourself just so you can get some “easy money”, because this money is definitely not easy and can really crush your self-esteem and self-confidence. It’s better to find a lower-paying, but a stable “vanilla” job that you can count on, versus a high risk-high reward one that might never pan out.

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Whatever you decide to do, make sure you’re not hurting yourself in the process and that you’re being as true to yourself as possible. Good luck!

Benefits of Camming: Is It Worth It?

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So, you want to be a webcam model or are still on the fence about it – Let’s look at some of the things that make being a camgirl GREAT and some that may make you reconsider!

If you want to jump right into it, check out my Top Recommended Cam Sites!

Benefits of Camming 

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Money – This one is easy, and it immediately comes to mind when you think of camming. The money can definitely be GREAT. So great in fact, that you can be out-earning the doctors and lawyers in your city (Check out my post about the highest tips on Myfreecams here). While it’s hard to say how much exactly you will earn, this post has some good approximations.

Freedom (of time, setting your own hours, not having a boss) – This is one of the biggest advantages of camming. You can quit your day job, say goodbye to your boss and not work a minute more for someone else. It is certainly alluring, especially if you’re making more money in a few days than you used to make all month at your old job, and with it comes a sense of empowerment. It’s a beautiful feeling knowing that you’re earned this type of money yourself and that you have the flexibility to work when you wish.

Sexual Expression – For some, this is one of the most beneficial aspects of camming: Being able to explore and express your sexuality in a way that’s very safe AND that earns you money is very alluring and liberating. You can do what you please and what you’ve always wanted to try out and there is no stigma – quite the opposite, usually!

💸Gifts and Attention – Being a camgirl with multiple fans definitely has its perks. At a “vanilla job” (aka the regular, 9-5 job), there is no way you’d be getting lavish gifts, extra money, gift cards sent to you, but all of that is standard in camming. It’s really thrilling to get your first “just because” tip or a gift card to get those clothes or shoes you wanted. Sometimes it feels like all you have to do is ask, and one of your members will be right there to buy it for you.

Work options that are not available to you otherwise, be it due to a disability or life circumstances. The great thing about being a camgirl is that you can work as much or as little as you want/can, and no one will tell you how to do your job. If you can’t handle a full-time job – camming is perfect. If you have mental health issues (common in the industry), physical issues or a disability, camming creates a way for you to work fewer hours and still make great wage, and most importantly, to do it on your own terms.

Ability to create the life that you want. To sum up, being such a non-traditional job, camming can create so many opportunities for having the life you truly want. You can make a ton of money in your 20s, invest wisely, and then follow your dreams, be it starting your business, owning a farm, or just being a stay-at-home mom. It’s possible with camming due to its massive earning potential.

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Downsides of Camming

Very short career timeline/Limiting your future options – Sure, you can be earning the big bucks if you’re lucky, but what happens once you start aging, or your life priorities change? Unfortunately, I believe that a lot of cam models will be stuck in this situation, with a big blank in their resume and no way of getting a well-paying job beyond adult work. It definitely can limit your options in the future, if you decide to leave the industry.

No benefits or paid time off – Say what you will about having a corporate job, but at least it does (usually) provide you with some medical/dental benefits, and a paid time off for any emergencies or just mental health days, in addition to vacation time. As a camgirl, you don’t have that luxury, so you need to plan your vacation around camming, and get used to not getting paid whenever you get sick and can’t be online. You are also on your own when it comes to taking care of your medical expenses.

Stigma – The adult work’s stigma, though lessening, is not going away. Most camgirls have to lie to their family and friends about where they work, and that can be a big emotional burden to carry.

Isolation – Isolation and lack of healthy social interaction is a very real problem for camgirl, because you get so wrapped up in the “Cam World” that you can kind of lose yourself. I made a post about the loneliness and isolation that comes with camming here.

Scams and Harassment – Unfortunately, scams, harassment, and even stalking in some cases, are common in the camming industry. It’s very likely that you’ll encounter some of them as a cam model. It does come with the territory, as there are members who think it’s okay to harass, intimidate, or even try to blackmail camgirls. It’s pretty disgusting behavior, and there is little you can do while it’s happening, but you CAN protect yourself ahead of time – read my post about it here.

 
So, despite all the negative elements, many camgirls LOVE their job and feel that it’s the best thing that has ever happened to them. I tend to agree – if you can be smart about minimizing your risks, and being realistic about your earning potential – you can absolutely have a great career in camming and enjoy its benefits for years to come.

Ready to get started? Check out my list of the Top Camming Sites to Join!

Dealing with Loneliness, Isolation, and Secrecy as a Camgirl

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Camming is not all fun and games (or adoration and gifts). It’s fraught with serious mental health challenges like loneliness, isolation, and secrecy. As a camgirl, you not only face challenges of working for yourself, but also having to deal with the societal stigma regarding sex work, and keeping it a secret from even your closest friends and family members. It’s really no wonder that a lot of girls burn out within a few years and go back to “vanilla” work (aka “normal”, socially-acceptable jobs). My estimate is that a camming career last on average anywhere from 3 to 5 years.

Within that time, you can develop and exacerbate all sorts of mental disorders due to pure social isolation that can come with camming. Anxiety, social anxiety, depression can unfortunately become very present when all you do is interact online instead of the “real world”. When your time is spent on cam and your mind is constantly occupied with ideas of what to do during your next cam shift, you start to separate yourself from your previous life, the things you used to do and the people you used to be around.

Living every day with a lie and being secretive about what you do all day can wreak havoc on your mental state. It can lead to burnout, substance use and abuse and send you down a dark hole.  

So, what can you do to combat this, assuming the benefits you get out of camming outweigh the negatives?

 

First, try to not completely isolate yourself from your old friends and activities

Isolation and ensuing loneliness only alienates you further and locks you into your self-imposed box. It’s a good idea to keep seeing your old friends and not changing up your life too fast too soon. If you were going to an exercise class or another activity, continue with it, so that you don’t feel like you’re completely cut off from the world, spending your days in your camroom. You need to keep some normalcy in your life, so that your mental health doesn’t suffer. Plus, exercise is great for balancing and improving your mood!

 

Create a daily schedule that includes time with others and self-care

Having consistency in your daily life will help you feel confident and in control. Make sure you are not going on streaming binges/camathons and then spending days to recover. Having a set time for your camming shifts, as well as time to yourself (self-care is SO important when you’re a camgirl!), plus spending time with others will ensure you have a more well-rounded life. Moderation is key, even though it will be tempting to devote all your time and energy to camming when the earnings start to pick up. Remember, that while you do socialize on cam, you also need proper, face-to-face positive and friendly interactions. Don’t underestimate its impact it plays on your psyche.

 

Share your secret with someone you can trust

Keeping this double life going is hard. It weighs on you and can create a lot of pain and suffering. You might not even feel it at first, since you may be excited and exhilarated by what it’s like to make more money than you ever thought possible! However, at some point the excitement will wane, and you might be left with some unresolved issues about your job, your self-worth and this massive secret that you have to keep from others. Some girls may be lucky and be able to disclose their job to their parents, but most will keep it secret. In this case, it’s a really good idea to find a counselor you can trust, so you can work through some of the emotional issues. Journalling might help too, or finding a good friend to confide in. The point of this is to not keep your emotions hidden, and to express them in a healthy way.

Camming is hard, and you have to look out for yourself, because no one will do it for you. Take a look at my Camgirl Self-Care post for some more tips!

How to Start Camming on a Limited Budget

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If you’re looking to try out camming but worried that you don’t having the right tools for the job, do not fear! The reality is, it is much easier to become a camgirl than you may think, and doesn’t require much money (or any at all!).

If you’ve already decided that you’d like to cam, and settled on a camsite or two (See my post about best camming sites here), the fact that you don’t have the latest and greatest technology (webcam, laptop, lights), shouldn’t hold you back from taking the leap. It is better to start sooner rather than later and not let perfectionism and hesitation stand in your way.

So, Here Are All The Basics You Need To Start Camming Today!

Webcam 

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Laptops these days have built-in webcams, though the quality is often not the greatest, so I would urge you to spend some money on a webcam before you start. A basic webcam, like this one from Logitech, is only about 20-30 bucks and should be affordable enough. You can also find used ones on Craigslist. After you reach your first payout, webcam should be one of the first things you upgrade, along with lights. A better webcam will equal more views, and more views equal more tips. Though, most of us have started with just a basic webcam.

 

Lights 

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Lights are often neglected by beginner camgirls, because they don’t realize how important good lighting can be. It elevates the quality of your feed and makes your basic webcam produce better video. Before you buy your first umbrella lights, you can use the lights you already have in your house. Just position a few table lamps or floor lamps in front of you to create a great diffused light. If you do want to buy something before you start, I recommend a ring light, which is pretty affordable!

 

Laptop

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Laptop is the least critical of the camming tools, so as long as your internet speeds are okay, you will do fine with whatever laptop you have at the moment. After a few months of camming, you could upgrade your laptop to one with a better processor, more RAM/memory, and better graphics. Here are some great options for when you’re able to buy an improved laptop for camming.

 

Lingerie 

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When starting out, lingerie requires the least upfront investment, because you can start camming in your regular clothes/pjs/underwear. In fact, lots of members love the girl-next-door, “normal” look and are not expecting you to be coming online in fancy lingerie. I think most of us start out this way… and some girls continue with this look for the rest of their camming career! However, if you want to have some outfits before you start, I recommend Pinkcherry or Yandy for affordable lingerie.

 

Toys 

Like lingerie, you definitely do not need any toys to get started, and some girls will *never* use any toys in their shows. It is totally up to you and what your comfort level is. If you’re interested in getting some toys, my recommendation is Lovense tip-activated toys, because not only are they fun, but they also make you money!

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Don’t be intimidated when you see camgirls with perfectly set up camrooms, with the latest and greatest technology or fancy lingerie. Rememeber that they all started the same way and no one is an expert starting out.

Check out my Beginners Guide to get started today! Good luck and let me know if you have any questions.


Jealousy in the Camming World – How to Overcome It

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When your job requires you to be in competition for members’ attention with thousands of other girls, any feelings of jealousy that might come up are absolutely normal. Seeing other camgirls showered with tokens and gifts when you’re having a bad night is the last thing any one of us wants to experience. Yet, it’s the reality of camming, and you need to change your thinking around to be able to have a long and successful camming career.

 

Here Are Some Ways to Overcome It:
 

Rule #1: Do not watch other girls, and limit your social media viewing

It’s common to go online and watch other girls’ stream either out of boredom or to see what the other girls are doing and how well their night is going. While it’s perfectly okay to do in moderation (it can be great entertainment and you can even tip the girls if you’re feeling generous), it does seem to cause a lot of insecurity and feelings of jealousy, because you can see with your own eyes when a girl is getting a ton of tokens and attention. You then start the comparison and insecurity cycle, where you begin to doubt yourself and your abilities and even be afraid of logging on, because you don’t feel like you can measure up. The same thing can happen with social media – seeing perfectly chosen and Facetuned selfies and screenshots of massive tips on other girls’ profiles can only generate negativity, especially if you’re already getting down on yourself and feeling like you’re not good enough, or that you’ll *never* be successful enough.

Remember: Comparison is the thief of joy. Watching other girls and seeing how well they’re supposedly doing on cam (you don’t know what goes on behind the scenes) does not benefit you in any way, and only causes insecurity, wastes time, and takes your attention away from YOU.
 

Rule #2: Don’t get possessive over members – You don’t own them

Say that you do get into the habit of watching other camgirls, either before or after your shift. What may unfortunately happen is that you notice one of your tippers hanging out in another girl’s room and… tipping her, maybe even more than he normally tips you. This is a bit of a horror scenario for any camgirl. Feelings of jealousy are likely to come out and you can became pretty enraged. One thing to remember is that members are not tied to you and are allowed to tip anyone they want and be online at times you’re not. If you were to follow Rule 1, you would never have to experience this very unpleasant situation.

However, if you happen to, take a few breaths, realize that the person on the other side of the screen has his own life and makes his own decisions independently about who to tip, and you being upset or angry at him won’t help in any way. In fact, it may alienate the very member that you want to keep. So, staying offline when you’re not streaming is a very good solution in preventing a lot of jealousy and unnecessary anger.
 

Rule #3: Figure out coping skills for when you’re feeling jealous and insecure

We are not perfect and the temptation to check up on other girls or your high tippers may be too strong sometimes to resist. So, when you do see a girl doing well or talking to your high tipper, here are some of the things you can do to make yourself feel better and less emotionally reactive. A great strategy is to just walk away and switch your thoughts toward something else, like going for a walk, cleaning your camroom, doing your nails, cooking dinner, etc. Just about anything (as long as it’s healthy) would be a great way to modify your thoughts and get away from the situation that may be causing you pain.

If that doesn’t work, try working through your feelings to really get to the bottom of why you’re reacting this way or this strongly. You can journal or talk to someone supportive about it. If you feel like your feelings of insecurity and jealousy are taking over your life and thoughts, it may also be time to speak to a therapist who will be able to help. There are also many ways to help yourself with consistent and self-compassionate self-care (See my post about it here). Camming is tough and can really play a number on your self-esteem if you’re not careful enough, so take time to take care of yourself! 💖

 

Hope this post was helpful. See my Beginners Manual and Ways to Protect Your Safety and Security While Camming.