Jealousy in the Camming World – How to Overcome It

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When your job requires you to be in competition for members’ attention with thousands of other girls, any feelings of jealousy that might come up are absolutely normal. Seeing other camgirls showered with tokens and gifts when you’re having a bad night is the last thing any one of us wants to experience. Yet, it’s the reality of camming, and you need to change your thinking around to be able to have a long and successful camming career.

 

Here Are Some Ways to Overcome It:
 

Rule #1: Do not watch other girls, and limit your social media viewing

It’s common to go online and watch other girls’ stream either out of boredom or to see what the other girls are doing and how well their night is going. While it’s perfectly okay to do in moderation (it can be great entertainment and you can even tip the girls if you’re feeling generous), it does seem to cause a lot of insecurity and feelings of jealousy, because you can see with your own eyes when a girl is getting a ton of tokens and attention. You then start the comparison and insecurity cycle, where you begin to doubt yourself and your abilities and even be afraid of logging on, because you don’t feel like you can measure up. The same thing can happen with social media – seeing perfectly chosen and Facetuned selfies and screenshots of massive tips on other girls’ profiles can only generate negativity, especially if you’re already getting down on yourself and feeling like you’re not good enough, or that you’ll *never* be successful enough.

Remember: Comparison is the thief of joy. Watching other girls and seeing how well they’re supposedly doing on cam (you don’t know what goes on behind the scenes) does not benefit you in any way, and only causes insecurity, wastes time, and takes your attention away from YOU.
 

Rule #2: Don’t get possessive over members – You don’t own them

Say that you do get into the habit of watching other camgirls, either before or after your shift. What may unfortunately happen is that you notice one of your tippers hanging out in another girl’s room and… tipping her, maybe even more than he normally tips you. This is a bit of a horror scenario for any camgirl. Feelings of jealousy are likely to come out and you can became pretty enraged. One thing to remember is that members are not tied to you and are allowed to tip anyone they want and be online at times you’re not. If you were to follow Rule 1, you would never have to experience this very unpleasant situation.

However, if you happen to, take a few breaths, realize that the person on the other side of the screen has his own life and makes his own decisions independently about who to tip, and you being upset or angry at him won’t help in any way. In fact, it may alienate the very member that you want to keep. So, staying offline when you’re not streaming is a very good solution in preventing a lot of jealousy and unnecessary anger.
 

Rule #3: Figure out coping skills for when you’re feeling jealous and insecure

We are not perfect and the temptation to check up on other girls or your high tippers may be too strong sometimes to resist. So, when you do see a girl doing well or talking to your high tipper, here are some of the things you can do to make yourself feel better and less emotionally reactive. A great strategy is to just walk away and switch your thoughts toward something else, like going for a walk, cleaning your camroom, doing your nails, cooking dinner, etc. Just about anything (as long as it’s healthy) would be a great way to modify your thoughts and get away from the situation that may be causing you pain.

If that doesn’t work, try working through your feelings to really get to the bottom of why you’re reacting this way or this strongly. You can journal or talk to someone supportive about it. If you feel like your feelings of insecurity and jealousy are taking over your life and thoughts, it may also be time to speak to a therapist who will be able to help. There are also many ways to help yourself with consistent and self-compassionate self-care (See my post about it here). Camming is tough and can really play a number on your self-esteem if you’re not careful enough, so take time to take care of yourself! 💖

 

Hope this post was helpful. See my Beginners Manual and Ways to Protect Your Safety and Security While Camming.

MV Live: New Cam Site from ManyVids!


 

MV Live Information and Review

 
ManyVids, industry’s best video-selling platform just introduced their very own cam site that will launch on July 31! We can expect to get more information at that time, but knowing how quickly ManyVids rose to popularity, it is likely to do quite well in the camming sphere as well. It has enough traffic and enough models using it to already generate a ton of interest online and become a serious competitor for both Chaturbate and Myfreecams, arguably the most popular sites on the net. (See my full list of top cam sites here).
 
Now, what most models want to know – MV Live Payout percentage and how it compares to other sites.
 
ManyVids will pay you 60% or 6 cents per token during its Beta phase. That percentage is quite good and standard in the industry, so it’ll definitely be a draw for both newbie and established models.

The best thing is that you will be able to easily promote your MV store in chat without restrictions, and you will also be allowed to cam-split (steam on multiple sites live at the same time).

An important thing to note is that if you are already an MV girl, your MV Rank/Score will never be affected by tokens earned from MV Live!

ManyVids also announced that it will also be giving away $10,000 every month to the top MV Live models and studios! Btw, male and trans performers are allowed!

With this information in mind, it seems like a great time to try out ManyVids if you haven’t already, and to test out their camming platform when it becomes available!

💰Click here to Sign Up!💰

 

5 Books Every Camgirl Should Read

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As a camgirl, especially one that is just starting out, it is so important to do some research before diving straight into camming. This way you won’t make any beginner mistakes that can potentially compromise your privacy and security and you won’t be influenced by members who think it’s ok to push new cam models around and demand things for very few tokens. Please be aware that there are certain members who do this specifically to new girls who don’t yet know how camming works and who don’t know their worth.

So, aside from reading through this Beginners Camming Guide, here is some reading material for newbies and established models alike!


Cam Girl 2.0: Make Boss Money at Home While Keeping Your Panties On

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Great read for beginners! 

“How to make money from home on your own terms, without the secrecy and shame sometimes associated with sex work. Includes information on how to begin your career, from technical set up to how to find an audience and develop it – and from making fans for life to dealing with common pitfalls.”

Buy it on Amazon.






The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance

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For any aspiring dommes! 😉

“Packed with great ideas, from how to carry yourself as a dominant to scenes to do with your submissive… enticing, charming and very very thorough.” ―Mistress Jezebel, Edenfantasys

“Mistress Lorelei Powers has such a wonderfully authoritative and insightful voice, with just enough snark, charm, and wit.” ―Leandra Vane, The Unlaced Librarian

“An essential purchase for any woman who wants to get the maximum pleasure out of dominating her man.” ―Forum

Buy it on Amazon.


Ho Tactics: How To MindF**k A Man into Spending, Spoiling, and Sponsoring

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“Ho Tactics: How To MindF**k A Man into Spending, Spoiling, and Sponsoring lays out the practical steps to evolve from a woman that goes Dutch to a woman that gets pampered. Ho Tactics provides the Sex-Free blueprint on how to turn any man into your personal ATM. Stop spending nights with men that can’t offer you anything but conversation, stop being understanding of men who are underachieving, stop settling and submitting, and learn how to seduce and destroy!”

Buy it on Amazon.





Influence

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Influence, the classic book on persuasion, explains the psychology of why people say “yes”—and how to apply these understandings. Dr. Robert Cialdini is the seminal expert in the rapidly expanding field of influence and persuasion. His thirty-five years of rigorous, evidence-based research along with a three-year program of study on what moves people to change behavior has resulted in this highly acclaimed book.

You’ll learn the six universal principles, how to use them to become a skilled persuader—and how to defend yourself against them. Perfect for people in all walks of life, the principles of Influence will move you toward profound personal change and act as a driving force for your success.”

Buy it on Amazon.


How to Win Friends and Influence People

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“How to Win Friends and Influence People is just as useful today as it was when it was first published, because Dale Carnegie had an understanding of human nature that will never be outdated. Financial success, Carnegie believed, is due 15 percent to professional knowledge and 85 percent to “the ability to express ideas, to assume leadership, and to arouse enthusiasm among people.This is so true in camming, as many of you may have experienced first-hand. Great book to read!

Buy it on Amazon.


Hope you found this list useful!