Jealousy in the Camming World – How to Overcome It

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When your job requires you to be in competition for members’ attention with thousands of other girls, any feelings of jealousy that might come up are absolutely normal. Seeing other camgirls showered with tokens and gifts when you’re having a bad night is the last thing any one of us wants to experience. Yet, it’s the reality of camming, and you need to change your thinking around to be able to have a long and successful camming career.

 

Here Are Some Ways to Overcome It:
 

Rule #1: Do not watch other girls, and limit your social media viewing

It’s common to go online and watch other girls’ stream either out of boredom or to see what the other girls are doing and how well their night is going. While it’s perfectly okay to do in moderation (it can be great entertainment and you can even tip the girls if you’re feeling generous), it does seem to cause a lot of insecurity and feelings of jealousy, because you can see with your own eyes when a girl is getting a ton of tokens and attention. You then start the comparison and insecurity cycle, where you begin to doubt yourself and your abilities and even be afraid of logging on, because you don’t feel like you can measure up. The same thing can happen with social media – seeing perfectly chosen and Facetuned selfies and screenshots of massive tips on other girls’ profiles can only generate negativity, especially if you’re already getting down on yourself and feeling like you’re not good enough, or that you’ll *never* be successful enough.

Remember: Comparison is the thief of joy. Watching other girls and seeing how well they’re supposedly doing on cam (you don’t know what goes on behind the scenes) does not benefit you in any way, and only causes insecurity, wastes time, and takes your attention away from YOU.
 

Rule #2: Don’t get possessive over members – You don’t own them

Say that you do get into the habit of watching other camgirls, either before or after your shift. What may unfortunately happen is that you notice one of your tippers hanging out in another girl’s room and… tipping her, maybe even more than he normally tips you. This is a bit of a horror scenario for any camgirl. Feelings of jealousy are likely to come out and you can became pretty enraged. One thing to remember is that members are not tied to you and are allowed to tip anyone they want and be online at times you’re not. If you were to follow Rule 1, you would never have to experience this very unpleasant situation.

However, if you happen to, take a few breaths, realize that the person on the other side of the screen has his own life and makes his own decisions independently about who to tip, and you being upset or angry at him won’t help in any way. In fact, it may alienate the very member that you want to keep. So, staying offline when you’re not streaming is a very good solution in preventing a lot of jealousy and unnecessary anger.
 

Rule #3: Figure out coping skills for when you’re feeling jealous and insecure

We are not perfect and the temptation to check up on other girls or your high tippers may be too strong sometimes to resist. So, when you do see a girl doing well or talking to your high tipper, here are some of the things you can do to make yourself feel better and less emotionally reactive. A great strategy is to just walk away and switch your thoughts toward something else, like going for a walk, cleaning your camroom, doing your nails, cooking dinner, etc. Just about anything (as long as it’s healthy) would be a great way to modify your thoughts and get away from the situation that may be causing you pain.

If that doesn’t work, try working through your feelings to really get to the bottom of why you’re reacting this way or this strongly. You can journal or talk to someone supportive about it. If you feel like your feelings of insecurity and jealousy are taking over your life and thoughts, it may also be time to speak to a therapist who will be able to help. There are also many ways to help yourself with consistent and self-compassionate self-care (See my post about it here). Camming is tough and can really play a number on your self-esteem if you’re not careful enough, so take time to take care of yourself! 💖

 

Hope this post was helpful. See my Beginners Manual and Ways to Protect Your Safety and Security While Camming.

How to Manage Your Money as a Camgirl

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While camming is just about the most atypical job you can have, what you do with the money you earn should not deviate too much from the norm. Yes, you may be earning crazy money each month that you never thought you could, but you still need to be smart about how you spend it and what you do with it.

Camming is different from a “normal” job in this key way, and to be able to succeed and prosper as a camgirl, you need to take it into consideration.

Camming Career has an Expiration Date

Sad, but true: You cannot rely on camming to provide for you until retirement, due to the influx of new (read: young) girls joining cam sites every day as well as your own ongoing satisfaction with the job, which can include a lot of safety concerns as well as burnout. I talk about this more here and I estimate the length of an average camming career to be 3-5 years. Bearing that in mind, even though you may believe you will cam forever, you need to make sure you put away enough money each month to not end up broke and with a huge gap in your employment history if you have to look for other, “vanilla” work.

What are the steps to take to ensure a better financial future as a camgirl?
 
Have an Emergency Fund

I would first recommend having at least 3-months worth of living expenses saved in a savings account as your emergency fund, and have it be easily accessible, so you can use the money asap if the need comes. Since camming is so volatile, to feel safer, you should put away 6-months worth of basic living expenses, and not touch it unless an emergency comes up. This is basic financial advice that makes sense whether you work a 9-5 job, or cam for a living, though it’s particularly important to follow as a camgirl.

Invest Slowly and Wisely

Once you have an emergency fund, put at least 10% of each paycheck into an investment account to watch it grow. You don’t need to know anything about investing to be able to passively invest your money. One of the best platforms to do it on is WealthSimple that is “set it and forget it”. You can set up automatic monthly contributions to make the process even more easy and passive, and you don’t have to do it with a lot of money, either – even a few bucks here and there will do.

They do the hard work in selecting the right ETFs (exchange-traded funds) for you, and rebalancing multiple times a month, so you get the best return on your investment. It is the number #1 best thing to do for your financial future. Plus, it’s extremely satisfying watching your money grow each day. WealthSimple also offers a High Interest Savings account with rates higher than all the major banks offer. Click below to check out more! 
 
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Create a Budget, or At Least Strive to Spend Less

Separate your needs from wants. I know it’s tempting to spend money on things for yourself like clothes, lingerie, new electronics, etc, but you have to be mindful of the fact that your current income level might not last long. You don’t want to be regretting those purchases when you are scraping by without any means to pay for rent or food. You can make a budget in Excel or have a written one in a notebook, but the most important thing is that you try to stick to it and make it a priority to spend money on things that hold their value. Of course, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t spend any money at all, because it’s nice to treat yourself to things that you’ve worked hard for, but you have to keep the basic math in mind.

There have been too many instances to count where a camgirl gets used to her current income and then suddenly loses her highest tipper, or needs to stop camming suddenly, and has zero savings or anything to show for all the years she’s worked. Don’t make the same mistake, and put away money and invest even a small percentage of your income as early as possible. The financial security you’ll feel will be worth it.

 

Disclaimer: I am not a licensed financial adviser. The above references opinions and is for information purposes only.  It is not intended to be investment advice. 

Preventing Camming Burnout: Essential Self-Care Tips for Camgirls

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Camming is not an easy job – we all know this. Having to deal with beggars, scammers, and all-around awful people while still being entertaining and enticing to the people who do support you on cam is no easy task. Camming falls under the umbrella of helping jobs, where you expand a lot of your emotional energy toward your “clients” and often do not get much back. Therefore, burnout is so common in the camming field. You’ll see girls taking multiple days off from cam, and months even, because they’ve overextended themselves for the sake of their viewers and have neglected to take good care of themselves physically, emotionally, and mentally.

So, what does it take to successfully manage burnout while still maintaining a consistent cam presence and earning enough money?
 
BOUNDARIES
 
You need to have realistic expectations of yourself and set firm boundaries about what you will and won’t do, how often you’ll be on cam, and how available you’ll be OFF cam. I find that the off-cam presence is often the hardest one to be firm on, because you might feel that if you don’t give your members enough attention between camming sessions, they will forget about you and move on. While it may be true for some members, most will be understanding of you needing your private time outside of cam to recharge and do your own things instead of constantly doing Twitter status updates and tweeting sexy pics. The members who WON’T be ok are ones who will always expect too much from you and push your boundaries. You need to have a solid understanding of how much connection outside of cam is ok for YOU and to stick with it. Boundaries are so crucial to have, and I guarantee that you will have a greater peace of mind when your personal boundaries are not crossed by members.

How do you let them know what they are? You can either be direct and say that you will not be on Twitter much in the off-cam hours, or that you will take weekends off from social media completely, or that you won’t answer DMs. An indirect way of doing the same is simply doing it and waiting for members to catch on and not making exceptions. Firm personal boundaries equal a healthy state of mind. 💖
 
SELF-CARE

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You may think of self-care as taking bubble baths, getting your nails done, or getting a massage, and while those are all true, self-care may come in very different forms.

Self-care might be you taking a nice walk around town or a park. It might be disconnecting from social media and phone for a day and experiencing a day without interruptions. It’s giving your body some rest, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally too. It might be calling or texting a friend you haven’t talked to in a while because of your camming schedule, or even just reading a book. It might look different for everyone, but at the core of it is putting your needs first and caring for your own well-being.

You can think of taking care of yourself as investing in your camming career. The better your self-care and the firmer your boundaries, the more you can achieve without getting exhausted, spreading yourself too thin and eventually burning out. Burnout is not pretty, and unfortunately, it’s way too common in camming. It’s hard to get yourself back on cam after a burnout, because you may feel resentful, unmotivated and unwilling to put yourself back in the place that caused it. The best way out of this situation is to try to not get into it in the first place.
 
HERE’S HOW 👇

Start by figuring out how to take care of your basic physical needs, like prioritizing your sleep, having a stricter cam schedule (no camathons or camming too late at night), eating well and avoiding junk food and emotional eating. I know it may seem really appealing to order in after a long camming session, but doing that too often will drain your energy and lead to eventual weight gain. Make sure you go to the doctor for regular checkups and take whatever vitamins/supplements that make you feel better. (Try collagen for healthier skin, hair, and nails, and melatonin for better sleep). Exercise is a key component of self-care, whether it’s going to the gym, taking classes or just going on daily walks.

Emotional self-care involves doing things that make you feel good and keeping your mood stable. The instability of camming earnings and the up and down nature of the cam industry does not bode well for emotional stability. Adding the “camming high” after a good night on cam to the list is a recipe for an emotional disaster. Some ways to counteract this is to take time to yourself to relax and reflect on the day and perhaps meditate, journal, or spend time on a relaxing hobby. You can vent to your fellow camgirls or a supportive friend if you’ve had a bad day on cam. If you’re noticing that you’re feeling bad consistently, it may be a good idea to see a counselor, which can improve your mood immensely. Watch out for self-medication with drugs or alcohol. While they may bring relief in the short-term, they won’t be good for you at all in the long term.

Mental self-care can cover things like doing activities outside of camming that bring you happiness and feeling mentally stimulated. Let’s face it, camming is not exactly the most mentally-stimulating job out there, so you need to take care of that aspect outside of cam. Hanging out with friends, reading interesting books, maybe taking a class or even going back to school all encompass your mental well-being. It’s about knowing that there’s something outside of the camming bubble that can be mentally engaging and be something to strive for.

The combination of strong personal boundaries and consistent self-care will do wonders for you and prevent a potential burnout. You’ll be able to enjoy camming more and not lose yourself in it. If you have any more personal tips, share them below!
 
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Best Pan, Tilt, and Zoom (PTZ) Webcams for Camming

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You may have seen these webcams in cam land that will pan and zoom around the girl’s body with a remote. The remote control effect is striking and is really fun for the viewers. It really makes the members take notice and stick around for much longer than they would’ve otherwise! While most camgirls use “standard” webcams (Take a look at the top ones here), if you want to take your cam game to the next level and invest in your camming success, these so-called “conference cams” are worth checking out. They’re pricey, but they should be seen as an investment, as you WILL see increased interest and therefore tips after upgrading to them. Additionally, you should always be writing off your camming equipment on taxes, whether it be webcams or laptops, so it’s a win-win situation! Read all about the tax deduction rules here. Without further ado…

Top 3 Pan, Tilt, and Zoom Cameras for Camgirls

Logitech Conference Cam BCC950

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  • Features professional HD video with superior speakerphone audio for simple, small-group conferencing.
  • Carl Zeiss Optics with Autofocus deliver razor-sharp images and allow detailed visuals to be shared close-up . Microphone Bandwidth: 200 Hz – 8 kHz
  • 78-degree field of view and 180-degree remote-controlled video pan, tilt, zoom ensure whole group visibility
  • All-in-one design combines HD video with high-quality audio clarity
  • The built-in, full duplex speakerphone and noise-cancelling microphone. Allows all meeting members to hear and be heard clearly up to 8 feet away from the base.
  • Omni-directional mic pickup and echo cancellation audio. Makes it seem like conversations are happening in the same room.
  • Remote control and base button control options. Quickly control camera pan, tilt and zoom and volume up/down, mute and answer/hang-up functions during call.
  • Broad application compatibility. Optimized for Microsoft Lync and Skype and works with most other popular UC platforms.

Best option for those who are on a budget!

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Logitech PTZ Pro Camera

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  • Premium USB PTZ video camera: Delivers professional video quality to a conference room or event space.
  • Ideal for custom integration: Flexibility to use multiple mounting options and three camera presets.
  • HD 1080p video quality at 30 frames per second: Brilliantly sharp video resolution and outstanding color reproduction.
  • H264 SVC video compression: Processes video within the camera for smoother video streaming using less bandwidth.
  • 90 Degree field of view, mechanical 260-degree pan, 130-degree tilt: Wide field of view and versatile controls make it easy to see everyone in the room.
  • 10X lossless full HD zoom: Zoom wide or zero in on people, whiteboard content and other details. Intuitive remote: Easily control camera pan, tilt, zoom and more.
  • Plug-and-play compatibility: USB connectivity to Windows PC, Mac, Google Chromebook; compatible with most web conferencing applications such as Skype for Business and Lync.

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Logitech PTZ Pro 2 Camera HD 1080p Video Camera With Enhanced Pan/Tilt and Zoom 

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  • Logitech PTZ Pro 2 camera delivers premium optics and life-like video calls to create the experience of sitting together in the same room, even if you are a thousand miles away.
  • It sets a new standard for high-quality, professional video with brilliantly sharp image resolution, outstanding color reproduction,and exceptional 10x HD zoom.
  • EASY TO SET UP AND USEPTZ Pro 2 connects with a single USB cable. Certifications with leading VC applications make it easy to use any video conferencing applications – including the ones you already use.

Best professional webcam you can get as a camgirl!

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⋆ SkyPrivate Review: What You Need to Know

As a camgirl, you have to be extra vigilant about non-paying members and scammers, particularly when it comes to Skype shows. It’s easy to be scammed in this way, since members will promise to pay you in tokens after the show, or even send a fake Amazon gift card as payment, and never follow through. However, Skype shows are SUCH great ways to earn extra income, either on top of your camming income or to replace it if things are going slowly on cam. This is where SkyPrivate comes in. It’s a Pay-Per-Minute Skype plugin that will ensure you get paid for every minute you are on, and there’s no chance for members to talk you into doing extra work for no pay.

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Here is What SkyPrivate Offers:

 

💰 Minimum 75% Payout Rate for Models!  💰

Custom Rate per Member: Special price for special clients!

Multiple Payout Options: Paxum, FirstChoicePay, ePayments, Bitcoin, Bank Transfer.

Dedicated Profile Page: Your photos, videos and profile details.

Country Ban: Family & friends can’t see your profile.

Discreet & Secure: Skype encrypts your calls.

Chargeback Protection: You will never lose money due to fraudulent transactions!

 

How Can You Make Money on SkyPrivate?

 

Pay-Per-Minute Shows

Live Skype shows. Log on whenever you have time and want to make extra cash.

PrePaid Shows

You can also charge in advance for shows. You set the prices and the time.

Sell Stuff

It can be your panties, photos, videos, anything you can think of!

Tips: Members have the ability to tip you before or after a show!

 

Additional Features that Make SkyPrivate Great:

 

Autoreject Freeloaders: If they don’t have the money, they don’t get a show with you!

No FREE shows: No more hoping or begging for somebody’s tip.

Shows on Tablets and Smartphones: Your members can take you with them anywhere.

Less than 14 Days to Withdraw money: Request your payout anytime you need!

Security: Skype allows for text and video encryption of the call. No tracking and no recording of your shows = no worries!

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